Tiny Wisdom: Caring About What Others Think (and Do)

Tiny Wisdom: Caring About What Others Think (and Do)

This year, we are focused on Mindfulness and Self Care – both at home and in the office.

That’s why this month’s blog comes to us from Lori Deschene, the founder of one of our favorite new websites, Tiny Buddha. We hope you enjoy her blog as much as we did.

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” -Eleanor Roosevelt

Growing up I often heard the phrase You shouldn’t care so much.

Derivatives of this idea included: So what if they’re talking about you. Who cares what they think? He’s a jerk; why do you care about him? You’re your own person; why do you care about what she’s doing?

I associated the word “care” with stress, because in all these instances, caring meant feeling bad.

It meant being overly worried about someone’s opinion of me, or feeling for someone who didn’t feel for me, or thinking someone was somehow better than me.

I frequently responded, “What kind of person would I be if I didn’t care?”

I also argued that not caring could be a limiting choice.

Sometimes someone else’s criticism contains a valuable lesson. Sometimes someone who seems like a jerk really needs someone to take a chance on him (or her). Sometimes someone else’s choices help us illuminate the path we really want to take.

If we decide to stop caring in all instances that might push and challenge us, we risk closing ourselves off to insights, relationships, and ideas that could change our lives for the better—and potentially do the same for others.

I’ve since realized that the real message isn’t to stop caring, but instead to recognize how we care and why so that we don’t give our power away.
Sometimes we care with love; sometimes we care with fear. Sometimes we care with self-respect; sometimes we care with self-contempt. Sometimes we care with a sense of possibility; sometimes we care with fears of inferiority.

The important thing is that we don’t let caring about people or circumstances detract from our ability to care for ourselves.

A friend of mine recently told me she’s stopped caring about what people expect of her. Knowing that she values those relationships, I concluded that she really meant she stopped stressing about how well she met their expectations.

She essentially decided to stop worrying about things outside her control, and focus instead on all the things that were within her power.

That’s what it means to care for ourselves: to do our best and celebrate that, even as we keep learning and growing.

Lori Deschene is the founder of Tiny Buddha. She’s also the author of Tiny Buddha’s Gratitude Journal, Tiny Buddha’s Worry Journal, and is co-founder of Recreate Your Life Story, an online course that helps you let go of the past and live a life you love. For daily wisdom, visit Tinybuddha.com.

Make Your First Impression With The 8-Pocket Portfolio

Make Your First Impression With The 8-Pocket Portfolio

It is the time of year where students are graduating from school and on to their next journey. Whether it is continuing on to a higher education or starting a new job, it’s always important to leave a positive impression with a professional appearance. C-Line’s 8-Pocket Portfolio with Security Flap has a polished look that is ideal for a job interview, business meeting, social gathering, company function and many other events.

The black and sleek look of the portfolio will make an impression to others and is also perfect for recent graduate students who are job hunting. The pocket feature is great to organize different kinds of materials such as resumes, cover letters, research and much more. It is also light and compact enough to easily carry to an interview. In addition, the security flap will ensure your private documents do not spill out.

For those who are continuing their education, the 8-pocket portfolio is good for extra storage space. The pockets are durable, which will prevent papers from tearing or ripping. Plus, the elastic closure can be wrapped around the back of the front flap, making documents more accessible.

It doesn’t matter if you are recent grad or a full-time employee. The pocket portfolio is so professional-looking that it can be used in any work environment. I like the product so much that I have been using the portfolio myself when going to meetings and have been able to store work-related documents. Who doesn’t want to look good and work efficiently, right?

Content originally posted by C-Line blog

Fight For a Cure

Fight For a Cure

To support Breast Cancer Awareness, the annual Penny Wise Pink Ribbon Giveaway begins this week. Let us know how you support Breast Cancer Awareness, and you’ll be entered to win one of 8 drawings taking place this month.


(Getting yourself or a loved one checked counts!) Two winners every Friday during the month of October will receive a collection of many of the items shown here. Want to shop for a cure? A percentage of all Pink product sales will be donated to the City of Hope and Susan G. Komen for breast cancer research, treatment and education.

Win a 2017 Doodle Calendar Desk Pad by House of Doolittle.

Win a 2017 Doodle Calendar Desk Pad by House of Doolittle.

Have you noticed all the new Adult Coloring Books out there these days?  Maybe you’ve tried this new trend yourself?  We got out our colored pencils, channeled our inner child and found it was not only FUN but a great stress reliever too!  Our friend who tends to get “deep”, told us it was “Mindful Meditation”, letting your brain relax.  Whatever it is, we like it!

We also tend to doodle while talking on the phone or waiting on hold, which is why we absolutely LOVE this new Doodle Coloring Desk Pad Calendar by House of Doolittle!  There are tons of flowers, hearts and curly-q’s to color in.  It’s so much fun, we ALMOST don’t mind being kept on hold!

We want you to try it out for yourself!  One lucky reader will WIN their own 2017 Doodle Calendar Desk Pad by House of Doolittle.

The Doodle Coloring Desk Pad has large daily blocks for scheduling your appointments.  It also features a handy note section.  Each page features an annual calendar of all 12 months, for quick, easy reference.  The doodle pages are super cute to color, but best of all, the whole desk pad is made of recycled material!

So, want to win this Recycled Doodle Coloring Desk Pad Calendar? It’s super easy! Here’s how!

How to Enter: Leave us a comment on our blog telling us where you will use this fun doodle calendar.  Plan to put it by the phone in your office?  Keep it by your busy home command center?  We want to know!  Leave us a comment below. We’ll update this blog post with the winner on Friday, September 30, so be sure to check back here!

*Open to U.S. Residents Only.